Wednesday, December 7, 2011

i don't get it

(for those wondering -- we should have gotten a court date last week, but we didn't. a document was apparently missing from our paperwork, though our agency's lawyer said it was submitted. it was re-submitted, and they told us it would be a few days before we heard back. we're hoping to hear by week's end.)

now for what i really came to say.

this week, i overheard a comment that essentially carried the tone of "God forbid you can't have a biological child, because then (gasp) you'd have to adopt." when i got over being annoyed that someone said this in earshot of me knowing that i'm adopting, i started thinking how confusing it is to me that people don't see adoption the other way around. the above statement implies that the only intrinsic value adoption has is to make someone a parent, albeit in a way that is (apparently) less desirable. it's a mostly negative statement that focuses primarily on the perceived rights of a person to have a child the way they want it, when they want it (as an aside: i don't mean to imply that it's wrong to desire biological children). what it fails to highlight is the glaring fact that when a child is adopted, they go from not having a family, to having a family; from being an orphan, to being a son or a daughter. it is a miracle, and i really wish our society could see it as such.


  1. well stated lauren. praying for a court date this week.

  2. thanks for the adoption update and I whole-heartedly say Amen to the rest of your post!

  3. hate comments like that. some people are just too ignorant to actually use their brains and think through what adoption really is. Maybe your two joys will help them to realize what a blessing the journey of adoption is. Easy, certainly not. heartbreaking, most certainly. But full of every day miracles of hope, faith, grace, joy and redemption. I can't imagine it any other way.